Wednesday, September 18, 2013

The Sin In The Pages

I was listening to a well known Baptist pastor on a radio show this past week, and the topic of pornography jumped to the top.  Now, this was geared toward the men in the listening audience, but this got me thinking....

Can women be addicted to pornography too?

Answer:  yes!

Oh, we don't necessarily get a kick out of Hustler and Play Boy and those other magazines full of naked women.  But, have you taken a look at Chippendales?  How about those romance novels on the paperback racks at Walmart, Hastings, Barnes and Noble, or even Dollar General?  Have you by chance read what's in those novels?

Men are visual creatures, they run on sight, hence the photos of nudes.  Us women, we are more of the emotional, mindful type--we run on emotion and feelings rather than the photos.  Usually.

Many of us women at one point or another have picked up those handy dandy little novels, from Harlequin, Avon, and other names.  There's all kinds of story lines, from the backdrop of the Wild West, a ship steaming toward the Americas, a Southern plantation, you name it.  In most of these books, graphic sex scenes abound.  More often than not, a play by play of each movement, feeling, emotion, to make the woman reading the book feel like she's the heroine in the scene.

These are pornographic books, simply pointed toward us women rather than men.  They feed on the emotion, the dreams, the feelings, of women, rather than the eyes.

What can these books do for those women who read them?

They create a false dream, a false ideal of what a marriage, courtship, relationships, sex, womanhood should be like.  They glorify sex outside of marriage, they create lust for characters who do not exist (usually the overly muscular long haired man on the cover), create expectations for the men in their lives that these men cannot attain.  The stories give the woman another world that focuses on lust and sex.

What does our Lord say about lust?

But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.  (Matthew 5:28)

Psalms 101:3 - I will set no wicked thing before mine eyes: I hate the work of them that turn aside; [it] shall not cleave to me.

Psalms 119:37 - Turn away mine eyes from beholding vanity; [and] quicken thou me in thy way.

Titus 2:12 - Teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly, in this present world;

There's a whole laundry list of verses on lust found here.

Is it a sin to read these romance novels that we see on the bookshelves where ever we go?  

I personally believe that yes, reading these can be sinful.

I am not judging anyone who reads them.  I used to read these myself, as a young teenager up through my early 20's.  The stories warped my ideas of what romance, love, and relationships were to be like.  I was not saved, so had no solid foundation, and I learned from reading.  Then experimenting.  Seeking.  Should I try to read one now, I'd feel soiled and filthy, ashamed in the sight of my Lord.  

The next time we are in a bookstore, we should pass by those dirty little books, full of sins, and pass on to something glorifying to our Lord!

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  1. I think you are quite right about this. In fact, I rather think that even "clean" or Christian romance novels (such as Jeanette Oke) can create unrealistic expectations about men and about the way love should unfold. I wonder if even reading too many stories about falling in love can focus our emotions and attentions on a fleeting part of life, elevating it as something to be achieved, reachieved, and reachieved again, until we find it hard to be content with any other slice of romantic and marital life.

    1. I think you have a very good point! At the library I see more and more of those books, the "clean" romances, focused around quilting groups, bible studies, and other "good" settings, that go into a different yet still just as unrealistic story about falling in love, marrying in a little white church, and settling in a little white house with a white picket fence and having a very large family with no squabbles or labor pain. I wonder if these stories put unrealistic expectations on our families, we expect our kids to behave like those in the stories, our husbands to be the hero we see in the pages when those families do not exist. You bring up some good ideas on this!!


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